U is for Understanding.
·      the
ability to understand something; comprehension
Synonyms – comprehension, apprehension, grasp, absorption, assimilation
The most desired gift of all is to be understood.  When we love someone, we want to understand
that one person ‘s communication more clearly. 
Our oldest two sons were almost two years apart.  When Paul began to talk delightful baby talk,
I wanted to understand him.  I asked Dan,
almost three years old, to interpret. He looked at me with a questioning look,
listened to his brother and answered, “Blaeg dee la dah dah.” I
understood immediately — Dan didn’t understand either.  It takes time to understand someone else.
Understanding another person begins by building a rapport.  Having the desire to learn their hopes, goals
and dreams. The song, Getting to know
you, getting to know all about you
…describes the beginning of
A bride and groom embark on a close relation built on a mutual desire to
know all about each other.  It doesn’t
happen overnight, but takes years.  In
four months, my dear husband and I will celebrate 63 years of marriage.  Each season and change in our lives has
required a shift and new re-learning to understand each other.  The current season of Dementia has again
brought the need for new understanding and adjusting to a much different
marriage than in the past.
One of the most satisfying and blessed relationships is with our adult
children.  More than a half-century provides
genuine love and shared goals graced with laughter and joy of understanding.  Each of our children brings a uniqueness of
understanding and we love each one of our children and their families. 
We often hear the phrase…It’s not about you!  Understanding is about caring and serving
someone else, taking responsibility for us and not blaming others for our
failures.  Now how can this be? We are flawed;
we make bad decisions, demand our rights and want our wants gratified.  Now! 
To gain understanding in our lives, we need our Creator.  We need Jesus.  We need to understand the laws by which to
live. We learn, day by day, to love and forgive as Jesus did.  We learn to walk in truth without subterfuge
and barriers.  We begin to understand what
is important in our lives is not things, but peace, love and joy in
relationships with others and with God. 
Do I understand God?  No.  It is a lifetime quest.  One that grows sweeter with the years.  There are no short cuts.  It isn’t a speed course we can take in a
semester. Through pain and suffering and sorrow, we turn more and more to God
because we learn we can’t do life alone or on our own.  And we begin to understand a bit more about
the Lord of the Universe, the Master of all. 
His Word takes on new and deeper meaning as we begin to understand in
part, His purpose and plans for each of us. 
The ‘why’ of things has less importance as we accept His ‘what is’.  When the world declares right wrong and wrong
right, we simply continue to trust His Word as our Truth and our Rock of
If, after 50 years, we have a loving relationship with our children, I
can only imagine what a lifetime, and a forever, will be in store for an
understanding relationship with our Lord and Savior. 
Long ago, King Solomon wrote in Proverbs:
• These are the proverbs of Solomon, David’s
son, king of Israel. Their purpose is to teach people wisdom and discipline,
 to help them understand the insights of the

Their purpose is to teach people to live disciplined and
successful lives,
to help them do what is right, just,
and fair. Proverbs 1:1-3
Trust in the Lord with
all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Proverbs 3:5
Job 28:23-28 – “God alone
understands the way to wisdom; he knows where it can be found,
for he looks
throughout the whole earth and sees everything under the heavens.

He decided how hard the winds should
blow and how much rain should fall.
He made the laws for the rain and
laid out a path for the lightning.
he saw wisdom and evaluated it. He set it in place and examined it
 And this is what he says to all humanity: ‘The fear of the Lord is true wisdom, 
to forsake evil is real understanding.’”
Corinthians 2:13-14 – When we tell you these things, we do not use words that
come from human wisdom. Instead, we speak words given to us by the Spirit,
using the Spirit’s words to explain spiritual truths.  But
people who aren’t spiritual can’t receive these truths from God’s Spirit.
It all sounds foolish to them and they can’t understand it, for only those who
are spiritual can understand what the Spirit means.